What I'm about to say will be controversial, but that never stopped me before. The truth is that most people are unhappy. There, I said it. Now you can either agree or deny it. If you deny it, then you're probably in the unhappy category.
Of course, this is nothing but my opinion, but I think my opinion is based on solid observation.
The last few years for me have been about transition and last year, in particular, I saw quite a bit of transition in some of my relationships. What I have learned from people who no longer consider me their friend, is that their unhappiness is the blame. That and the fact that when you actually try to hold some Christians accountable for their sin, it's easier for them to walk away or throw you under the proverbial bus.
These are not happy people who do this. In fact, happy people are happy because they are real with their feelings, they have healthy boundaries and they know how to discern when it's their issue or the other persons issues.
The truth is that unhappy people don't want to change. That is actually a fact. I know this because I've seen it quite a few of my former friends. They either hide behind a "temperment" issue and blame it on that, or in some cases, they hide behind their form of spirituality. Note, I'm not saying Christianity, I'm saying spirituality because that is what it is.
It's really super easy to over spiritualize things, when you don't want to deal with the truth. Other people just live in denial about things and like to blame you.
Here's what's interesting to me though, unhappy people really can't stand happy people. In fact, they will go out of their way to try to suck you into their unhealthy mindset. And I'm a pretty tolerant person, but last year, I basically had it with 3 people I have know collectively for over 25 years.
I could tell you each story, but I will spare you the details.
Here's why I bring this up. Most of us will be unhappy at some point in our lives. God gave us emotions and some of those are negative. I'm not talking about the natural things in our lives that cause us grief, sorrow and loss. What I'm talking about are those people who will never be happy because they have chosen that mindset and if they are Christians, they have disobeyed the Lord in their thinking. (Yeah, I just said that and I mean it, because the bible says it. Read Philippians 4:8)
Also, we're all prone to the temptation of comparison and "wondering what or wondering if". I am totally guilty of that. I personally wonder what my life would've been like if I had never been sexually abused or if my parents had never divorced or if I had been brought up in a Christian home. Yet, I know people, who are completely unhappy who have had all of those things!
I know a person who has nothing but a Christian heritage, their parents are still married and they were never sexually abused and yet they are one of the most miserable people I've ever known.
I also wonder what my life would've been like if the Lord had blessed me with children of my own, and yet it's amazing to me the women I've shared my desire to have children with, who have had multiple children and how ungrateful and how depressing they are as mothers! I've heard mothers say things like, "Oh pets are way better" or "having kids isn't all it's cracked up to be" or "if I could do it all over again I'd never have kids". I wish I was kidding, but these statements have come from self professed Christian women.
Another area I have noted that people are generally unhappy about is their looks. Given our culture, I understand why there is this obsession with some people, but honestly, it's all a waste of time. God made each of us uniquely and He gave us all genes and issues within our DNA. Some of us will be thinner or fatter than others and some of us will have great hair and others will go bald. It's the outer body, it's decaying every day.
So why are people so unhappy then? I believe the real reason is because people don't fear the Lord and they don't appreciate what they have or the people in their lives that God has placed there.
I remember reading a very powerful blog post from Katherine Albrecht when she was going through her breast cancer scare. She wrote about her fear of dying in a hospital room and observing life from her bed and only seeing out the window. She also wrote later, after going through a zillion treatments that if she could endure all of that, then an hour at the gym to exercise is no big deal. I'm paraphrasing this, of course, but it was very impacting to me.
It was impacting because she was being honest and secondly, it helped me with my perspective on my own health.
Here's one thing you can always know and count on - God's word. That would be the written scriptures called the Holy Bible. I know most people and sadly most Christians rarely open the book up and read it, but I'm telling you, that if you did and you actually did what God says, you'd be way happier.
That's my goal anyway. I admit I have sad days just like any other person, but through God's grace and mercy, I've found true contentment in life. I surround myself with doers of the Word and not merely hearers who do nothing.
And therein is the key. DO what the Word tells you to and don't merely listen to it.
It's really easy to have knowledge, but it is way better to have wisdom. Think about it.
How is it that people raised in godly homes, who have never been abused and have been given everything on a platter, are miserable and someone like me who has nothing but the cards stacked against me, are happy....
It's in the doing and not merely knowing. If you want change, you have to get up and move. Otherwise you're like the baby in a diaper who cries and sits there in a soiled diaper.